Was your first thought similar to one of the following:
1- Yeah right, where are they?
2- I don’t want a “good man” I want a godly/Christian man!
3- No one is good except God!
I certainly agree with you that God is good. I understand that you want to marry a Christian man. However, you as well as I know there are Christian men who are not living what God considers a “good” life at this moment. They have abandoned the love they once had for Christ. Sadly, at this very moment, they have left their first love (Revelation 2:4).
On the other hand, there are unsaved single men who are seeking a relationship with God and will come into a relationship with Christ on this very day!
The interesting thing about when you/experts/researchers count how many single Christian men over 40 compares to the number of single Christian women over 40, it is impossible to factor in the “God math.”
God’s math is seen in Judges 7 when He used Gideon’s army of 300 to defeat an army that biblical scholars believe were several hundred thousand. Although the bible does not provide a specific number of the defeated army, the scholars base their belief on the description given in Judges 7:12: "the Midianites and Amalekites, all the people of the East, were lying in the valley as numerous as locusts; and their camels were without number, as the sand by the seashore in multitude." This does not sound like a few hundred people to me!
Another example of God’s math is seen when Elisha’s servant is only able to see the vast enemy army that surrounds them. Elisha prays for his servant, “O Lord, I pray, open his eyes that he may see.” He prays that his servant might have eyes to see the myriad of God’s host surrounding them (cf. 2 Kings 6:15-17). The servant is encouraged once he sees “God’s math” in action.
As a result of not being able to factor in “God’s math” in any statistical research, the results will always be flawed. Even when you say, there are just a few, just a couple or no Christian men over 40 in my church or bible study group, you may be speaking the truth, as it is now. However, your truth does not limit God. I am praying that God will open your eyes that you will see and be encouraged by His math!